Was watching "Udaya-Kannada" TV Channel last evening. A Speech by some dignitary wherein she declares there is love and commitment existing absolutely only in marriages and not in live-in relations!. Instantly I happened to say " what? is it?".
No Am not starting another debate ,but definitely have my stand over this issue.
Its true that friendship will not promise moral responsibility but a kind of commitment only does. But has not the commitment called marriage got entangled today amongst modern views?
Today's modern world has its ideologies with its own pros and cons, its own positives and negatives. Education has taken new turns and is applied in reality in the real life in many ways. Yes, in the process things are manipulated wrongly too. But it may be wrong to say there is no love or commitment existing in a non-marriage relation. The whole scenario where in the younger generation has adopted the "live in relation" for seems to be a fake to our eyes. At times it might also happen that the same turns out to be for better for few!.
Are we not aware of the torture the women went though int he hands of men few decades ago? It might/is still be continuing today .May be at descended frequency as women have been learning to stand for their dignity. Are we not aware of how many extra martial affairs exist even today calling for betrayal of love and nuptial commitment? Yes, today there are women too joining the group having extra martial affairs! Again, this scene existed earlier too, now at increased rate perhaps.
So the debating goes on.....
My point lies in why would there be no love, no commitment existing in 2 people living together without marriage?. Also, would there be love and commitment guaranteed in a wedding perhaps?
It calls for why at all this "live-in" relation concept cropped up in recent years.
Firstly there is a fear of freedom amongst both the sex, fear of the tie up by commitment. Secondly, both sexes are concerned about protection of their security.
How many couples involve in messy divorce cases,bickering for lions share in property leaving the children to witness their ugly fights. How many on this earth still believe in horoscopes, bad luck/good luck. Would not all this attitude complicate the decision making on tieing a not?
Now in contradiction I have read about pre-nuptial agreements/contracts/insurance. What does all these point at?. The advancing technologies and their swift adoption are upending traditional models.The whole concept of the marriage-love-commitment has been translated by modern views.
So where do we start debating about wrongs and wrights?. We simply have to go with the flow.
I do not mean here we are accepting it or following it, yes, but at least do not want to disagree with those who are following it.
Must add, I started writing this a month back almost and finalised today because am not any writer and wanted to express my views on this controversial matter very politely.