A live in relation or a pre-nuptial agreement?

Was watching "Udaya-Kannada" TV Channel last evening. A Speech by some dignitary wherein she declares there is love and commitment existing absolutely only in marriages and not in live-in relations!. Instantly I happened to say " what? is it?".

 I disagree.

No Am not starting another debate ,but definitely have my stand over this issue.

Its true that friendship will not promise moral responsibility but a kind of commitment only does. But has not the commitment called marriage got entangled today amongst modern views?

Today's modern world has its ideologies with its own pros and cons, its own positives and negatives. Education has taken new turns and is applied in reality in the real life in many ways. Yes, in the process things are manipulated wrongly too. But it may be wrong to say there is no love  or commitment existing in a non-marriage relation. The whole scenario where in the younger generation has adopted the "live in relation" for seems to be a fake to our eyes. At times it might also happen that the same turns out to be for better for few!.

Are we not aware of the torture the women went though int he hands of men few decades ago? It might/is still be continuing today .May be at descended frequency as women have been learning to stand for their dignity. Are we not aware of how many extra martial affairs exist even today calling for betrayal of love and nuptial commitment? Yes, today there are women too joining the group having extra martial affairs! Again, this scene existed earlier too, now at increased rate perhaps.

So the debating goes on.....

My point lies in why would there be no love, no commitment existing in 2 people living together without marriage?. Also, would there be love and commitment guaranteed in a wedding perhaps?

It calls for why at all this "live-in" relation concept cropped up in recent years.

Firstly there is a fear of freedom amongst both the sex, fear of the tie up by commitment. Secondly, both sexes are concerned about protection of their security.

How many couples involve in messy divorce cases,bickering for lions share in property leaving the children to witness their ugly fights. How many on this earth still believe in horoscopes, bad luck/good luck. Would not all this attitude complicate the decision making on tieing a not?

Now in contradiction I have read about pre-nuptial  agreements/contracts/insurance. What does all these point at?. The advancing technologies and their swift adoption are upending traditional models.The whole concept of the marriage-love-commitment has been translated by modern views.

So where do we start debating about wrongs and wrights?. We simply have to go with the flow.

I do not mean here we are accepting it or following it, yes, but at least do not want to disagree with those who are following it.

Must add, I started writing this a month back almost and finalised today because am not any writer and wanted to express my views on this controversial matter very politely.

Gokarn visit

Echanting beauty of the konkan coast, along the South Indian state of Karnataka and Goa with the mesmerising beaches, hills, the very air paralyses any man on knees with stretched hands towards its  outrageous extremity.....

"Gokarn" is one such paradise in its own magnitude. Known for temples, the history of this place can be found here. in Wikipedia.

Our visit here lasted for an evening, a night,& the following morning till lunch only.

The flight from Doha's desert to the beautiful Goa, elated our holiday spirits. "Nimmu House"  a popular,  guest house located straight opposite the beach giving us the feel at home attitude excited us.

As we entered our room I got busy unpacking in the closet, Harish ensured the loo was super clean and nice, and Jui stuck to the open balcony her eyes fixed at the roaring waves beating the big black boulders at the shore. Unusually she was silent, toothless smiles to herself. I decided to leave her alone. The cloudy evening sky, winds and the beckoning water stretch could not keep us indoors for long.

Though tired, we started towards the shore and a nearby hilltop temple where "Lord Rama" is worshipped. The fascinating point is that without any discrimination any outsider, any foreigner prays in this place. The exterior opens into an cemented arch, a place to sit and look down at the vast shore. No words can fill the gap here, the splendid moments that we spent there. From inside the temple is believed runs a long tunnel till "kashi" the famous religious place of North India, which was created and used by a sage in the good days of saints and gods and godesses. Irrespective of the fact, we concentrated on the surroundings. Jui was all busy watching most of the spanish, german and other nationality visitors clad in orange attire revealing the meditating styles. The sunset appeared wild from the hilltop. Juis constant chattering and inquisitiveness dint disturb any person sitting there. Soon after darkness grew & the mosquito bites compelled us to leave the place.

A simple vegetarian dinner was refreshing. The Indian rice is good announced Jui. The taste of the similar dinner menu at Doha would not taste the same, I agree. A night walk along side the beach was just the final touch for the day after which we retired to the rooms and slept like dead!.

Unbelievably, the alarm gave up after ringing many times perhaps since none of us woke up. We opened eyes only when my relative banged on the doors and got ready to another venue "Om beach". Yes some foreign visitor long ago noticed from the hill top a certain shore appears in the shape of letter 3 or"Om" which is the hindu religious symbol, and named the beach after it. On the way we payed visits to all the temples located there. As we walked on the local streets, turning our heads left and right constantly watching the street sellers with colour full shops of clothing, bags, numerous beads and neck laces made out of them...and what not Harish noticed tender coconuts. Relished the amazing natures fruit. Some of the hut houses still smelt of fresh dung[cow dung] which is traditional way of spreading it on the fron porch of the house.

The ride on a 2 wheeler to the beach across the town on its non-bitumen roads was an interesting part. As we stepped into the beach we had an urge to get into the water. One one boulder splashed the medium waves with its thrusting style and made sprinkling effect around, a scene that we so often see in any romantic bollywood movies. We stood on this boulder enjoying the splashes for a while. The fat layer of moss on the stone finally slipped us down and we got into the water. With her new lemon green bikini just purchased from Goa Jui rolled over on the sands and whenever waves ran on her she'd shriek and scream sometimes attracting people around wondering if she was in trouble!

After finishing the water enthusiasm we settled under branches of a low tree avoiding sun bathing. I was planning next how do I remove the amount of sand that had accumulated on Juis head from the sea!.

A great tourist attraction lures the local landowners to build restaurants in midst of trees and on hills. We entered one such place serving the tastiest sea food we ever had. A heavy lunch and that's it, the count down began as the time to depart had arrived.

Nimmu House-Picture for you all

Guest house bookings

I dedicate this post to the G-Day of round 9 of ABC Wednesday meme. Please click here for details and more shots.