Why not argue

Accidentally entered into an argument with my hubby  last week and ended up having a great discussion and sharing a wonderful thought. Agreeing to disagreements also happened. I felt " are arguments always bad?" No. Id debate, they can be good too.
Had heard someone say an intelligent person never entertains an argument. Is it??? I disagree. Avoiding a argument totally isnt "intelligence" according to me. If we sense an argument taking negative turns then avoiding it might be intelligence.
 I don't evoke another argument here.

Many times we crack like a whip on an different opinion that we hear from ours and then follows "i dint mean to ...i meant...etc. Same time silent nod dings on hearing a different opinion also isn't justified. Just to avoidd getting into hassles of an argument.  Small issue getting blown up ending in mess. Proper medians drawn helps. Small arguments invites defencive nature at times planning the best defensive attack against unfinished verbal  wars ...and the blame games...ohhh never ending. Many times I would wonder when someone jumped on me as if to attack me next second on some opinion of mine. Also often encountered healthy arguments, at home, office, wherein we exchanged realistic views and concluded..believe me concluded by saying "alright our opinions to us..hold".

We call ourselves the best creatures on this earth and have vivid ideologies, believe in various different  perspectives. Each has unique experiences. It happens that arguments are at times inevitable. But, how good, how healthy the arguments goes is the actual concern. Today's date where we find most of us highly educated and holding high degrees too. Correspondingly it eases the fact to relate our education in realistic applications.

Arguments are nothing but just another means of communication, so why call it bad. Rather make it good.
Yes, throwing your opinion over another is unfair. Also, criticizing another's opinion too is unfair. Somewhere the median is drawn. Am unable to exactly pen my feelings may be but have had absolutely positively healthy arguments which makes me confidently write this today. There need not be wrights and wrongs but there is an arguments though, with "you and I".

Typically a disagreement is one point when arguments erupt. Misunderstanding could be another factor. At times when things aren't done our way arguments occurs  inviting ego clashes, outburst of  unexpected anger might add fuel to the fire. Subject goes endless. Heated arguments ends nowhere but in harsh verbals blocking the potential to understanding the whole matter positively. Cases where arguments get totally out of topic is not uncommon.


Cant arguments be beneficial  by the way we like to overrule it rather let our emotions rule over us?
Our behaviour, our words reflect our attitude. Can we undo words once uttered?. Showing our stand is the concern, but it can be done other way making the aruguement positive and healthy.  We can definitely argue upon our opinions in a way to see people don't take us for granted or throw their opinion on us. Maintaining a no nonsense attitude is not impossible if difficult.

Entertaining  positive conversations  avoiding evoking a negative impulse from listener, using strong positive approach of asserting our stands definitely facilitates a healthy argument. Enables us to remain in the boundaries of courtesy and being sensible.
In that case argue, why not?..It might proove helpful sometimes. Difficult at times, not impossible.

An Annual Day.

A day of thorough excitement it is for a child on the eve of "Annual Day" be it in regular school or any dance school.
A same eve was Dec 1st when my daughters school celebrated its annual day. The day of Doha Modern Indian School . (  All about DMIS) . So what's new or unique about this? If this question is troubling you please read on further to make sure you really feel the eve as much as we did. It was nothing new or unique BUT it "was so special".

DMIS has always started program on dot time.My hubby was to join straight from office. "Program starts at 5?. OK I will come by 5.30" he assured. I made sure  and we were seated by 4.45pm!!
Beginning with a verse from the Holy Quran is the pattern here in the middle east. Must mention, we have actually learnt to respect and understand another culture, another religion  more after Doha life [I don't want to mention anything in particular].
With no long speeches by VIPs or dignitaries in the beginning the theme of the program  was announced as the "Flavours of India".  India has a rich multicultural heritage. This eve was dedicated to children of kindergarten till grade 2.
Couldn't sustain from continuous applauding throughout the first dance program where tiny little kids danced for the famous goan number in konkani language by Remo Fernandez. "Maria Pitache". Each kid was dancing in his own pace, one lost in his own world. One little one weeping out of stage fear. Another constantly looked at his neighbour to remind his steps!! A couple of kids kept looking sideways where perhaps a teacher was enacting to boost the child's confidence. Its total fun watching tiny tots performing with such enthusiasm. We were so engrossed in it that only when lights turned off we realised to stop clapping.
In the list were other ones like punjabi, bengali, rajashtni folk,  south indian style, marathi. Wonderful theme and well organised dances. A dance on a patriotic number was included too.
This was not all. In between were enacted certain skits on famous rulers of India like Shivaji, Mahabali, Vikramaditya, and Akbar. The kids brimming with talent filled the very air with such mirth.
In midst of these entertainments the academic prize winners were awarded. My friends daughter turned out be a class topper in grade 2 and and when I stood steady whistling and taking a picture of her receiving the prize, I saw the thrill in her best friends eyes beside me. I was so touched seeing the child clapping and exclaiming with such pride when her friend received a prize. Children are the real jewels.
The section of CBSE-international students enacted a play on a Portuguese folk tale called" Goopygaayin & Baghabaayin". Be it the dialogue delivery, gestures .. ..spectacular show by young children of grade1.

A note of appreciation to the school who excelled in managing the entire show. Hats off to the patience of all faculty and the older students in volunteering help around.Such was the annual day. Even after the program ended our kids were full of energy. My daughter kept on chattering and we had no intentions of stopping her. It was her day and she enjoyed it fullest. Had woken up too early in the morning with butterflies in her tummy and constantly stared at the watch  and cribbed "amma when do we go".

On driving back I was reminded of our times too when Annual days used to be best times which narrowed the gaps between the teachers and children unlike today where the teachers no more carry wooden sticks or harsh verbals to handle the kids. Conclusively my feelings are that 'An Annual Day" is not just a celebration, nor a mere function. A day where every child's talent is awarded or performed and let them shine. A special day for every school faculty. Why, I noticed an older bus driver almost jumping and clapping with a child about 4 yrs of age, something would he do on any ordinary day? It was a day to show true emotions and let ourselves free of all our egos.