Accidentally entered into an argument with my hubby last week and ended up having a great discussion and sharing a wonderful thought. Agreeing to disagreements also happened. I felt " are arguments always bad?" No. Id debate, they can be good too.
Had heard someone say an intelligent person never entertains an argument. Is it??? I disagree. Avoiding a argument totally isnt "intelligence" according to me. If we sense an argument taking negative turns then avoiding it might be intelligence.
I don't evoke another argument here.
Many times we crack like a whip on an different opinion that we hear from ours and then follows "i dint mean to ...i meant...etc. Same time silent nod dings on hearing a different opinion also isn't justified. Just to avoidd getting into hassles of an argument. Small issue getting blown up ending in mess. Proper medians drawn helps. Small arguments invites defencive nature at times planning the best defensive attack against unfinished verbal wars ...and the blame games...ohhh never ending. Many times I would wonder when someone jumped on me as if to attack me next second on some opinion of mine. Also often encountered healthy arguments, at home, office, wherein we exchanged realistic views and concluded..believe me concluded by saying "alright our opinions to us..hold".
We call ourselves the best creatures on this earth and have vivid ideologies, believe in various different perspectives. Each has unique experiences. It happens that arguments are at times inevitable. But, how good, how healthy the arguments goes is the actual concern. Today's date where we find most of us highly educated and holding high degrees too. Correspondingly it eases the fact to relate our education in realistic applications.
Arguments are nothing but just another means of communication, so why call it bad. Rather make it good.
Yes, throwing your opinion over another is unfair. Also, criticizing another's opinion too is unfair. Somewhere the median is drawn. Am unable to exactly pen my feelings may be but have had absolutely positively healthy arguments which makes me confidently write this today. There need not be wrights and wrongs but there is an arguments though, with "you and I".
Typically a disagreement is one point when arguments erupt. Misunderstanding could be another factor. At times when things aren't done our way arguments occurs inviting ego clashes, outburst of unexpected anger might add fuel to the fire. Subject goes endless. Heated arguments ends nowhere but in harsh verbals blocking the potential to understanding the whole matter positively. Cases where arguments get totally out of topic is not uncommon.
Cant arguments be beneficial by the way we like to overrule it rather let our emotions rule over us?
Our behaviour, our words reflect our attitude. Can we undo words once uttered?. Showing our stand is the concern, but it can be done other way making the aruguement positive and healthy. We can definitely argue upon our opinions in a way to see people don't take us for granted or throw their opinion on us. Maintaining a no nonsense attitude is not impossible if difficult.
Entertaining positive conversations avoiding evoking a negative impulse from listener, using strong positive approach of asserting our stands definitely facilitates a healthy argument. Enables us to remain in the boundaries of courtesy and being sensible.
In that case argue, why not?..It might proove helpful sometimes. Difficult at times, not impossible.
Had heard someone say an intelligent person never entertains an argument. Is it??? I disagree. Avoiding a argument totally isnt "intelligence" according to me. If we sense an argument taking negative turns then avoiding it might be intelligence.
I don't evoke another argument here.
Many times we crack like a whip on an different opinion that we hear from ours and then follows "i dint mean to ...i meant...etc. Same time silent nod dings on hearing a different opinion also isn't justified. Just to avoidd getting into hassles of an argument. Small issue getting blown up ending in mess. Proper medians drawn helps. Small arguments invites defencive nature at times planning the best defensive attack against unfinished verbal wars ...and the blame games...ohhh never ending. Many times I would wonder when someone jumped on me as if to attack me next second on some opinion of mine. Also often encountered healthy arguments, at home, office, wherein we exchanged realistic views and concluded..believe me concluded by saying "alright our opinions to us..hold".
We call ourselves the best creatures on this earth and have vivid ideologies, believe in various different perspectives. Each has unique experiences. It happens that arguments are at times inevitable. But, how good, how healthy the arguments goes is the actual concern. Today's date where we find most of us highly educated and holding high degrees too. Correspondingly it eases the fact to relate our education in realistic applications.
Arguments are nothing but just another means of communication, so why call it bad. Rather make it good.
Yes, throwing your opinion over another is unfair. Also, criticizing another's opinion too is unfair. Somewhere the median is drawn. Am unable to exactly pen my feelings may be but have had absolutely positively healthy arguments which makes me confidently write this today. There need not be wrights and wrongs but there is an arguments though, with "you and I".
Typically a disagreement is one point when arguments erupt. Misunderstanding could be another factor. At times when things aren't done our way arguments occurs inviting ego clashes, outburst of unexpected anger might add fuel to the fire. Subject goes endless. Heated arguments ends nowhere but in harsh verbals blocking the potential to understanding the whole matter positively. Cases where arguments get totally out of topic is not uncommon.
Cant arguments be beneficial by the way we like to overrule it rather let our emotions rule over us?
Our behaviour, our words reflect our attitude. Can we undo words once uttered?. Showing our stand is the concern, but it can be done other way making the aruguement positive and healthy. We can definitely argue upon our opinions in a way to see people don't take us for granted or throw their opinion on us. Maintaining a no nonsense attitude is not impossible if difficult.
Entertaining positive conversations avoiding evoking a negative impulse from listener, using strong positive approach of asserting our stands definitely facilitates a healthy argument. Enables us to remain in the boundaries of courtesy and being sensible.
In that case argue, why not?..It might proove helpful sometimes. Difficult at times, not impossible.
Hi Sushma, Arguements can be enjoyable too when there are things like (a) two way communication, (b) good articulation and (c)witty retorts. But one should be sure of facts when starting an arguement. Your write-up was a good one. Do keep posting more blogs, including those on your experiences during upcoming vacation in Goa, Udupi etc.
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