Wednesday, February 12, 2020

Stereotyping The Stereotypes



Most times, we confuse the traditions and the culture with feminism or stereotyping. I have debated on such topics and also on topics like "multitasking- a man's cup of tea or a women's expertise!".  And to realize, that few of my life experiences are neither of the above four topics. We simply end up stereotyping stereotypes. We define our life.


[Photo courtesy: indiaforums.com.] A cute meme to go with, courtesy google.


Dating back to the late 1980s, the old, fragile lady that she was with hunched back, black strong glasses, few remains of teeth. She had the best warmth, wisest words, love-filled talks, and compassion filled life. My great grandmother, who affectionately held my wrist, and with her failing vision, she would sense my wrist, hair, and cheeks and admire, "you are now doing metric.?"
For that generation studying in Grade 10 meant doing a metric. "Nah, still in 7th", I would tell.
She would then pour out her wishes. "OK, once you finish your metric is when you will marry and I wish I live to see that".  At times she would simply rephrase it as "I will witness your wedding and then go". Her go meant straight up to heaven. Her path to heaven had one last event, that was my wedding.

I still do not conclude this as a stereotyped formula. I was brought up in an educated family that never preached me, ideal orthodox feminine model, however, my great grand mother's wishes touched our brahminical family matrix and her beliefs.

But, the contrast happens when we decide where to draw a line. I mean, today, my male friends do the dishwashing every night and I do not envy their working wive at all. Working full time or not, I prefer he be away from the chores. That is my choice.

At times, I find it funny enough to realize this. One of the best domestic fun times for my kids is when they, with their father sit back and decide "MY" travel to India. Yes. When it was time for my travel alone to India on a personal call, my kids become too empathetic with love. Both are exclusively at my service how I should extend my return ticket and how they will find their comfort in my absence in Doha.

Be it a major missing, yet they wait to showcase their skills of self-survival. I wasn't skeptical about that but I was aghast how the scenes changed sides when their "father traveled'! Both seemed absolutely different. Now, he is the busy bee as for him, Work is worship. It is fine with us. But the envious part is when "he" travels. He walks in the home from the office one evening and announces "tomorrow is my travel on work". Wow.
That would be so unlikely with me. "I am traveling tomorrow", if I said this, I would be traveling max to the Lulu Hypermarket. Huh. Not out of the country.

How at times, I wish I could pack my bags too without making a lengthy to-do list and the endless calls to the cook and the maid, and lesser said better but the unending instructions to my kids. I can still do. But my life is my choice and I have made mine. My own "stereotype". Some call me a saint, some alien. It is not important though.


I mean I could be straight silly basically. Or simply "be like a girl", myself. Analyzing those school time race days of mine, I had finally managed to race the speedy Gonsalves of the school almost till the finishing line once. But collapsed just little before the line. All I had to do was get up, and run crawl or drag myself touch the finishing line to hold the victory trophy. And there he was, my classmate, yelling,  get up and run. In desperation, he almost wanted to hold out a  helping hand and I sensed that. "Stay away from me you, yeah", that was my attitude towards him, and by then all the runners had touched the finishing line.

Ahh. Let me blame my generation. winning was not my priority. I was more conscious, about "you boys, stay away from me." Like I am an untouchable. So foolish as well! Years later I tell my mirror, "you foolish girl, you missed the win you deserved".  And my ego says "never mind, my great grandmother would be so proud of me".

She often caught me to question "I again saw you running around with the brats around the temple". Yes. Staying in the temple surroundings we all "brats" ran around like scattered mice playing serious random games, calling out each other names, at times yanking at each others collars or hair even! But my argument with my great grandmother was " how did you spot me from the grilled windows, from a distance of at least 10 m distance". But what I failed to notice was her extraordinary skillsets of analyzing me with her failing eyesight. 

And somehow, I shared a special bonding with her. None of her instructions affected my thought process, on not to mingle with the brats and "stay indoors like a good girl". Yet I became her favorite, feeding her snacks that were forbidden for her health, in the absence of other family members.

However, over a while, stereotyping the stereotypes got some fruitful results. I fell for her charms and almost stopped being a brat. By the time, I was doing my "metric" I would sit by her side as a pet dog, as I studied my subjects for the board exam that she so much waited! And she sat hunching her back with her dark cotton saree, folded hands chanting random mantras. In between, she would talk to imaginary people all by herself self and I would simply stare at her and smile to myself.

I was no longer on the streets pushing my cycle pedals for hours with my friends, or in the basketball courts all afternoon. And the other way too was a surprise. She had turned more insomniac with age, and stopped asking about my wedding!

It took these thoughts of mine to the realization that "stereotyping" was a phenomenon to be so obsessed with. For some, it is a miracle or a taboo, for a few an entire career, sometimes a debate topic. For the rest, it may be the big bang gender stereotype challenges and status quo. An unexhaustive list as it may sound.

To me, stereotyping stereotypes became a realization.



Sunday, November 10, 2019

ನಾನೂ ಕನ್ನಡದವಳು



ನಾನೂ ಕನ್ನಡದವಳು-  ಕತಾರ್ ನಲ್ಲಿ ಕನ್ನಡಿಗ. 

ಕತಾರ್ ನಲ್ಲಿ 12 ವರ್ಷ ಕಳೆದಮೇಲೆ , ಒಂದು ಸಂಜೆಯ ಮಾತು . ಪಾರ್ಕಿನ  ಲಾನ್ ನಲ್ಲಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳನ್ನು ಕರೆದುಕೊಂಡು ಅಡ್ಡಾಡ್ಡುತ್ತಿದ್ಧೆ.  ಇನ್ನೊಬ್ಬ ಹೆಂಗಸು  ನನ್ನ ನೋಡಿ ಒಮ್ಮೆ ಒಂದು ನೆಗೆ ಸಮೇತ ಮಾತನಾಡಿಸಿದರು. ಮಾತುಕತೆಯ ಆರಂಭವೇ ಹೀಗಾಯ್ತು.  "ನೀವು ಎಲ್ಲಿಯವರು" ಎಂದು ಕೇಳಿದೆ. ನಾನು ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ ದವಳು ಎಂದರು. ಅಬ್ಭಾ. ಖುಷಿ. ನನ್ನ ಒಳಗೆ ಒಂದು ಮಗುವಂಥಹ ಸಂತಸ.  "ಒಹೋ ನಾನು ಕರ್ನಾಟಕದವೇಳೆ" ಎಂದೇ ಮಾತನಾಡಿಸಿದೆ. ಮಾತು ಕಥೆಯ ಮಧ್ಯ  ಹೇಳಿದರು "ಹ್ಞಾ ಹಾವೇರಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ನಮ್ಮ ಅಂಗಡಿ. ಅದೇ  ಜನ್ಮಸ್ಥಾನ, ಹಾಗು ನಾವು ಮಾರ್ವಾಡಿ ವಂಶ  ಅಂತ". 
"ಆಹಾ , ಆದರೆ ಹೃದಯಪೂರ್ವಕವಾಗಿ ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ ದವಳು ಅಂತ ಹೇಳಿದ್ರೀಲ್ಲ, ನನಗೆ ಎಂಥ ಹೆಮ್ಮೆ ಅನ್ಸ್ತಿಧೆ " ಅಂತ  ನಾನು  ಹೇಳಿದರೆ "ಅಯ್ಯೋ ನಾವು ಹುಟ್ಟು ಬೆಳೆದ ಊರು ಆಷ್ಟೇ  ಅಲ್ಲ ನಮಗೆ ಅನ್ನ  ಕೊಟ್ಟ ಊರು ಹಾವೇರಿ " ಅಂದರು.

ಕನ್ನಡ ಒಂದು ಭಾಷೆ, ಸಂಸ್ಕೃತಿ ಅಷ್ಟೇ ಅಲ್ಲ. ಒಂದು ಹೆಮ್ಮೆ. ಒಂದು ಪದಕ. ನಿಜ . 

ಇನ್ನೊಂದು ಸಂಜೆಯ ಕಥೆ. ತೀವ್ರ ಬೆನ್ನು ನೋವು ಇಟ್ಟುಕೊಂಡು  ಡಾಕ್ಟರ್ ಹತ್ತಿರ ಒಂದು  ಪ್ರೈವೇಟ್ ಆಸ್ಪತ್ರೆಗೆ ಒಡಿದೆ. ಡಾಕ್ಟ್ರು ಕೇಳಿದರು ಎಲ್ಲಿಯವರು ಅಂತ. ಕನ್ನಡ ದಲ್ಲೇ ಮಾತನಾಡಿಸಿದರು. ನಾನೂ  ಕರ್ನಾಟಕಾನೇ  ಅಂದರು.   ಅವರ ಹೆಸರು ಹೇಳಿತು ಅವರು ಕೇರಳದವರು ಅಂತ, ನಾನು ಕೇಳಿಯೆಯೇ ಬಿಟ್ಟೆ, "ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ ದಲ್ಲಿ ಓದಿಬೇಕಲ್ಲವೇ ಡಾಕ್ಟ್ರೇ" ಅಂತ.  ನಕ್ಕು ಹೇಳಿದರು, ಹ್ಞಾ ೧೫ ವರ್ಷ ಕಳೆದ ಮೇಲೆ ಅದೇ ನನ್ನ ಊರು ಈಗ ಎಂದರು.

ಅಬ್ಬಾಹ್, ನಮ್ಮ ನಾಡಿನ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಪರ ಊರವರು ಇಷ್ಟು  ಪ್ರೀತಿ, ಅಕ್ಕರೆ, ಹೆಮ್ಮೆ, ಇಟ್ಟುಕೊಂಡಿದ್ದಾರೆ.  ಇದು.  ಕನ್ನಡ ಒಂದು  ಭಾಷೆ ಅಷ್ಟೇ ಅಲ್ಲ ,ಒಂದು ಹೆಮ್ಮೆ, ಮನುಷ್ಯನ್ನ ಸೇರಿಸುವ ಸೂತ್ರ. 

ಅಬ್ಭಾ ! ಏನು ಖುಷಿ. ಎಲ್ಲರಿಗು ಹೇಳುತ್ತಾ ಬಂದೆ  ಈ  ಸುದ್ದಿ. 

ಅಷ್ಠಕ್ಕೂ, ಮುಂಚೊಮ್ಮೆ ಸಿಕ್ಕಿದ್ದ ಕೆಲ ಕರ್ನಾಟಕದ ಜನರ ಮೇಲಿನೆ ಸಿಟ್ಟು ನನಗೆ ಕಮ್ಮಿ ಆಗಿಲ್ಲ. "ನಾನಾ ಮಂಗಳೂರು, ಅಯ್ಯೋ, ಕತಾರ್ ನಲ್ಲಿ ೨೦ ವರ್ಷ ಆಯಿತು ರೀ, ಕನ್ನಡ ಮರೆತು ಹೋಗಿದೆ you know " ಅಂದಾಗ,  ನಾನು ಬಿಡದೇ, ಅಯ್ಯೋ ಊರು, ಅಲ್ಲಿಯ ಭಾಷೆ ಹೇಗ್ರಿ ಮರೀತೀರಾ. ನಂಗೆ ಬೇಕು ಅಂದ್ರು ಮರಿಯಲ್ಲ. ಅಂತ ಹೇಳಿದೆ , ಬಾಯಿಗೆ ಬೀಗ ಹಾಕದೇ .

 ಏನು ಮಾಡಲಿ, ನಾನೋ ಕನ್ನಡದವಳು.
ಕನ್ನಡ ಒಂದು ಭಾಷೆ, ಸಂಸ್ಕೃತಿ ಅಷ್ಟೇ ಅಲ್ಲ. ಒಂದು ಹೆಮ್ಮೆ. ಒಂದು ಪದಕ.
ಕನ್ನಡ ನಮ್ಮ ಹೆಮ್ಮೆ.
ಜೈ ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ. 
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Saturday, November 9, 2019

Why Pondy



Almost 16 months after my solo travel to a place called Pondicherry in India, I have been asked this question "Why Pondy"? several times. Why not London, Maldives or Thailand?Most or many asked me this or such.

As a matter of fact, I did not single out on this destination until I got to hear about the Auroville. I had read this book "Auroville, A Test Run For Future" by Anuradha Majumdar. And a curiosity to explore this town finally pulled me on the various sites of airlines. 
Her stories had left vivid pictures in my mind, most ending with question marks. Majumdar is sure an excellent writer where her details and descriptions leave absolute solid pictures of motion in my mind.

Secondly, the oceans have always beckoned my spirituality and creativity by it's best. In my earlier post, I had written about my experience in the town. A few of the pending pictures are here today. And also the reason, Why Pondy. Simple I wanted to travel with myself once, I had always wanted. And I found all that I wanted in Pondy. The meditation center and the ocean view room.

It is when you travel with yourself, you get the answer to many of the "whys" you hold with you. Simple things are life's zest. We say. But I ask, how many of you have felt it often?
In the hustle bustle of our rapid random routines, have you technically  realized that one small thing evokes a notable change in you or even such a small "thing" is hard to achieve at all. Understanding simpler matter is most complicated challenge for the intellectual human species. 

Well, the point here is, my travel simply gave me that void. Simply that. Aesthetics that pitched on to my mind directly. Nothing more complicated. Neither have I turned monk out of my spiritual best nor did I swim in two piece in the ocean. I have touched the fair lines of life, with another angle, with another pair of glasses my eyes never perceived.

That is it, friends, it is only a small anecdote from my life forming a mammoth wave of life. 






Tuesday, November 5, 2019

Conversation With My Nostalgic Deepawali
















Like it all just began much before the dawn
while a layer of dark awaited hastily for the
curtains of day light to be raised, for a special day

like how my family assembled outdoors
for a herb flavoured oil massage, while
the charcoal and copper aromatic water felt rejuvenating

like little rabbits, we children and adults had the holy bath
lit several oil diyas, folded hands before the supreme
and settled in for the preparation, festival of lights

like, of days when the satellite reach was limited
social plug ins being "meeting and greeting" each other
festivity vibes connected entire town, by hugs, smiles and warmth

like the times we kids settled by the doorsteps
boxes filled with colourful crackers and poppers
very air of the town felt the vibes, the sounds of the crackers

like there was no stopping, by the dusk
the colourful sparklers would grace the sky
children's laughter were heard far away across many houses

like the best festivity spirits flickered, everyone showed up
with colourful outfits, authentic food and infectious love
the festive vibes united us, sculptured us into a pure human

like those days of the Deepawali, our childhood saw
are there any today? hard to match the past
for now, the vibes are passed on "online" alas!

like it all happened then, it may not happen now
yet we cleanse our energies, our nestles
we still dress up,  pray, eat and meet people

like it all happened then, it may not happen now
the crackers box shrunken, skies darker
love sprawls on the social plug ins only online

yet , it is the festival. It is all here.
We still follow all the practices, we pray
only  the times have switched faces.

Happy Deepawali everyone.


Wednesday, August 28, 2019

Return Ticket


It is just about 4 days now after returning to Doha from India. Was a long vacation for me , of close to 2 months and I ensure I do that each summer. When I wrote the first sentence I actually counted with my fingers, friday..saturday...and Tuesday today is only the 5th day in Doha. But seemed longer. Much longer. And this is what strikes the difference for us. 

We wait for summer every year to book out tickets to India. More, more, we want more number of days there and we click on the return date as delayed as possible. Yet it happens that these days just whoosh past making a lot of memorable noise and we are all set with Return Ticket in hand!



Then.....
Few years ago, my daughter was barely 4 years of age, when I was working, and I had enrolled her into summer vacation classes in Doha. One morning after talking to Chandrika, my friend who was leaving to Mumbai for long vacation (I had only 20 days sanctioned from my office) I casually asked my girl. "You will go to ajjis house? Alone? Chandrika auntie will take you in big flight and drop you there."
She instantly answered in affirmative with twinkle in her eyes and brushing them shyly. And I clearly remember the frock she wore, where she was seated in the living room, and how she seemed so excited after that, humming and talking to her dolls and hopping all round the house.
Then I held her and asked repeatedly. She showed me her bag and insisted she would go!

I still remember my informing this  to  Chandrika and my hubby. Both were surprised and eager. But as the flight departure was soon enough on the same day, online booking was closed. Chandrika and her husband Dinesh ran down to air lines office and purchased a ticket for minor while we arranged no objection letter for minor child to travel with friend. After 2 hours I was suddenly anxious. She was only 4!. What was the hurry to send her only on the basis of her excitement? But what put me back right was I was doing all right! My best friend was taking her. My sister was picking her at Mumbai airport. And my mother was going to take care of her in India. So what could be wrong. Nothing. I was convinced.

And yes, she excitedly packed her pink bag, favourite clothes and left with a happy good bye.

Even today my family take it up lightly as a moral story for the younger kids who get cranky even to eat or sleep. "Look at Jui akka, she came to India alone at 4. Played here, ate and slept all by herself without sticking to amma or paapa"! 

That was the beginning. She is now 15 and younger one 5, and I always ensure my kids have spent ample time of their holidays in the company of family members in India, seen the life there, don't cry seeing the lizards and mosquitoes. 

Now, my daughter who is 15 laughs when my son mentions Manipal as India and then Bengaluru or Mangalore are called by their respective names. But there was a day she too did just that. Going to India meant going to granny's place. And that was Manipal.

Ask her now, and she has cherished memories from those summer vacation times. Small things mused her. The touch me not plant, the cows at the gate, beggars singing with odd musical instruments, frogs in monsoon puddles or the centipedes curling up here and there. 

And so as a ritual, this summer too I was there. In India. Precisely in Manipal. For more than 3 weeks.  My son is now 5. And it is enjoyable to notice he too enjoys India the way my daughter did. The same fun tricks played in monsoons. In fact they are getting better and better. From not fearing the mosquitoes to not fearing a cobra hardly 1 foot away from them. Yes. Indeed.

I was taking kids for a stroll in the afternoon when rain had slowed down with sun showing its way a bit. It was then my eyes noticed the creepy crawling greenish long thing. I stopped. I pointed at it and told kids, walk fast. But they stopped. To have better look. By then I noticed it was yellowish, crawling too slowly and rising its hood, all signs it was a cobra. My daughter confirmed it first. It is a cobra amma she said.
That's it. My son's proficiency about creatures was alerted (yes, and he has surprisingly unbelievable knowledge about creatures). It was me who was frightened, of the aesthetics (overgrown weeds with creepy insects over our head) may be for security of the kids, and asked them to move on. This nagarpanchami while I was unable to visit the temple due to a death in the family, I almost was lucky to have the darshan of the Nag right where I was. This is what my elders at home told me. Pity, in the anxiety, did not bother to take a picture of  it, though I had my phone right in my pocket. 
 
Now....
But then aren’t holidays about creating memories other than visiting lovely destinations, and clicking beautiful pictures? I do have vague pictures of the enchanting paddy fields with lush green shoots, few peacocks and pea hens. At times when my car is full of kids, mine, those of my siblings, the kids find pleasure in nothing but a long drive in the rains to the Suvarna river, on the uphill and down hill roads literally squealing  “wee” and, pointing at random cow pooping on the roads, or a dog barking at my car. 


Well, I must tell this. Genetics go quite strong.

I told this to my daughter this holiday when she insisted I show her Udupi Krishna Temple, take stroll around, show her my school, without her pesky brother chattering and howling. Why I said, genetics here, is that this was what I loved doing in my growing years. Going to the temple hall, listening to the "Madhva Pravachans" with my bestie Anu, writing scholar exams conducted by the "Mutths".  There is something special about walking around these Mutths when the speakers faintly play spiritual mantras and a group of devotees sitting around singing loud bhajans. And this is exactly what my girl feels too. "I love the vibes" she said, hopping around like a baby.

And overall, I love the "vibes" when, the kids enjoy "my town" the way I do!,  love eating in temples, or the local delicacies, just the way I do!

Most friends in Doha enquire with me about Manipal that they have heard as the International town, or educational town, especially after seeing the pictures of the rural landscape that I post. This is the best blend in my town that the town was originally a forest and just few kilometers crossing the town borders are well spread rural areas. We have temples nestled in paddy fields surrounded scantily by woods where I often take kids to watch peacocks. And my family and friends knows the place by the name "kecop (peacock) jungle" as named by my 5 year old.

Well, all said and done, there is so much life covered in these few days. Neither can words match them, nor any pictures. That is what a holiday in India is for my  NRI kids. Enjoy the monsoons and grab the return ticket back to the sand dunes before the school begins. 😃

A short post after a long time, let me know if you found it interesting.✋💛


Wednesday, May 29, 2019

My April Book

The only book I read this April was "5 Questions Of  The Inquisitive Apes. Authored by my blogger friend Subhrasis Adhikari. This book is a non-fiction work and the second one to be authored by him.
It embarks on a lovely journey of how we came to be, what we are, why and how, in millions of aspects, en-capsuled in a few of 200 pages odd. Though there is a sound research work, what I loved most is the real life anecdotes he connected his analysis with.

I am yet to read his first book, but here we go with this one for now.

Questioning our own existence on this earth and delving straight into the curiosity of questioning about it, the author quotes Einstein saying never stop being inquisitive or lose the holy curiosity.

Started off with a appealing anecdote he had during a train journey, about our perception of understanding what we see and what we understand, the author went on to say there is always more to the truth from what you see. The book kept me hooked on as I read about  how we came to be.  The author has summed it all up there. The evolution of the apes to we beings. Right from the Big Bang theory to various tell tales from Africa or Egypt.

Unlearning the rainbow is something that commonly muses me as my daughter debates that I sometimes do not even an iota of an idea what shade dress I am myself wearing. I enjoyed that chapter, in the middle of some class of physics, quantum mechanics, psychology, neuroscience.

The interpretation of the 1.2kg protien, the brain which is the marvellous creation of evolution is presented with cognitive view. The psychology of optics and the connection to human nature, concluding it to the individual perceptive habit.

Freewill is a illusion, and are we mistaking randomness for freewill? It strikes a chord. Sometimes we unlearn our prejudices and lot of our moral value become irrelevant he says.
Human behaviour explained with enthralling anecdotes. Curious human mind is well interpreted when you say even the fundamental things like time and space are more mysterious than we can think of.
One things really shocked me. Apples, onions and potatoes have the same smell. Seriously? I do not want to accept that.


Further he tells about a logical angle to the biology and sex, the female and male social hierarchy and behaviour pattern, going on to analyze the successive versions of feminism from 18th century to the metoo campaign. If it was a war for social power or not, woman definitely is the goddess of the liberal society is what I could feel from reading it.
Had never known of the breast tax, and how it came to an end. The Hijab protest of Iran was however known to me.

Right from the beginning where he mentioned about the Big Bang theory, till the end of the book, as he questions our being, what angle we think about us. We could even think of us as an fact or information! Our association with our body. For me, memories were close to heart, but when author says they are electro-chemical information stored in brains, and also urges us to ponder over how about storing memory in some bank and then transferring it to some other body, is what I had to read over again and again. Memory transplants are apparently tried on rats and I dread this should stop at this.

Complexity of our character. You will be hooked on to the flow of words where the Author talks about Path to God. Like there is no success formula, every soul has his or her own journey in this path to derive happiness. Classifying human mind into pigeon hole is impossible yet the neuro scientists do, concluding every soul has more than one character. For the same reason, we can hack our brain. yes. Hack. By Yoga/meditation/ and the new therapy- the laughter therapy.

Self actualization is important and control of the gross body is explained with vivid examples. The Yogas, the Oxycise, and the practice of Meditation/Dhyana through which we can control our "intellect" is what is eye catching.

WHO ARE WE
Atoms? Genes? We matter. Because we are the matter that makes the universe. The unproven fantasy of us being just souls v/s just a collection of cells. The contradiction of we control the brain or the other way is just nailed in here. Claim of soul being proven is still a fantasy else someone would have received a Nobel Prize for it he says.

The magic words of the author, talking of the magic wand for Pain/Stress, the endurance of pain and how he connects it to faith is remarkable. Beginning with a gripping miracle anecdote from Kolkata, he says while our Babas have cured cancer with a healing touch, the modern cities like Singapore too sell zero point magical wand for stress relief, just like the Harry potter magic wand. Did you know WHO statistics shows India is top in the list of depressed countries? 

And as we battle with faith and truth, the word of 2016 in Oxford Dictionary is Post Truth. We believe in what is shown to us rather than the objective facts.
What makes us happy  is connected to the Human Development Index. Did you know about a bacteria for happiness and Oxytocin the love hormone and many more? Was all new to me.

Over all, the pursuit of our entire being starting with Big Bang theory to different characteristics and hierarchical structure of our development, is all sometimes a maze. The questions of the inquisitive apes remain with n number of vivid answers. In vivid world of science, fantasy, spirits or as a common social being. With the catastrophic changes, like the sixth extinction or the global warming, it is upon us to chose to nurture love or hatred, suppress hatred and promote peace. It is through stories we can create strong society, a happier one and that would be the triumph of the inquisitive apes, he says.

Overall, the book geared up my learning. 
I liked many lines in this book, but a few random lines were:
  • Equality does not exist in nature. We humans create them.
  • What we are today is combination of selfish desires, cultural emotions and intelligent tactics.
  • Vision is our strongest sense
  • It is our conscience to check the eggs before we roll the eggs into our nest
  • May be it is Physics that wants us to be happy
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So,
Dear Author,

Glad to know from your Bio that you are a established Toastmaster too. However this read is neither your evaluation nor a detailed or a perfect book review. I thoroughly enjoyed the book, and this is just my quick review.

And,
Dear readers,

This book is sure a very intelligent and engaging book. A must read.
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Wednesday, May 1, 2019

Who Says Times Can't Be Relived

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I am sure, it is an easily agreeable fact that, when we just want to get out of our monotonous routines, we look back. Be it flipping picture albums, talking of past to our family members or listen to some music, specially the old classics.

Well, when it came to this morning mood, two things mused me to re-write this old post.
1. Looking back at my very old posts, this one from 2010 tempted me to re-polish it and share.
2. As I take a stroll in the sprawling lawns in my residential community where the kids are occupied playing different games in the open, a few adults crib we do not have a play pen for kids. "What more did we want than this much open area available while our urban towns are stuffed with only artificially turfed play pens? Also a good turnout of kids who play every evening. In fact I moved here, only for this luxury for my kids!"

As for my growing years in school,in our good old days, most often the playground was our streets. We were a dozen of romping horses on the community streets, mixed majority of girls and boys, with all the under 15 united in a gang.


How many of you can easily connect to these games we played? Names are endless, at the same time, they are close to me when written in native language! 
Kere-Dada; Kuntebille (Hopscotch); Chowkabaara; Dodge-Ball; Knocking the tower of stones ; Kabaddi ; Fire in the mountains; Dog and the bone; Kho-Kho; Running a cycle tyre all on the streets with a stick;
How many of you have called the spirits? Still wonder where did some of such creepy games originate? 
Do remind me of any such game that you want to share. Of all, I would say, the random nameless ones were always the best. Running after one another, specially in the rains, or picking up wild berries far in the areas close to the fields. 
I recall, more funnier games where-in we simply enacted the television soaps. The detective Byomkesh Bhakshi, or the creepy Kile Ka Rahasya, the He-man or the Shakthimaan which came much later in 1990's. Though the traditional games have almost lost their identity, this trend surely has not changed much, though the difference is the animated and cartoon version have their own magnitude and influence.

Jumping between compounds of the row houses was just a  custom.  Especially when we played hide-and-seek, the favourite game. We were allowed to religiously intrude into someone's terrace, between another's guava tree branches, or the  garage. Scared the squirrels on the trees, chased snoopy the catty and many more. Street dogs hated this gang and never wandered anywhere close to these hurricanes!
Screaming at loud decibels, was mandatory. No neighbour was annoyed. In fact these pepped up every body's evening tempo. No kids or no noise just haunted everyone.

In small territory, we bustled covering miles. Screamed at top of the vocals; sweating piggish; called each other names like 'fatty, swollen cheeks, egghead, duffer'; made faces out of anxiety; also seldom banged and bumped into quarrels. Am sure many of the graduate schools have adapted games from the rural -traditional games. They sure were good communication and personality building games then.

And needless to say, we compare the current times to the old, call those games quite productive where the best part was the connection. Connection between the children. By my experience, I bet it was the factor that effected our strong bonding that even today I can connect to many friends, irrespective of age. Those many of whom I even connect on Face Book may have been one of my play mates but our bonding meant a lot.

Having said that, talking of comparison, yes, I find myself smiling with a strange essence of satisfaction when I see both my kids wandering in the lawns with their cycles. Playing random games with the bunch of children irrespective of age, come back with mud packed clothes, sweating and tired. 
Last night, when my 4 year old walked inside the house exhausted, almost ready to crash on bed, telling me "give me food" is when I feel, "yes. this was how we were..so we want our kids to re-live some of our moments". Somewhere, yes, we all are greedy that way. And I am.

So who says, times can't be relived!